Daily Reflections
March 14
THE KEYSTONE
He is the Father, and we are His children. Most good ideas are simple, and this concept was the keystone of the new and triumphant arch through which we passed to freedom.
–ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS, p. 62
A keystone is the wedge-shaped piece at the highest part of an arch that locks the other pieces in place. The “other pieces” are Steps One, Two, and Four through Twelve. In one sense this sounds like Step Three is the most important Step, that the other eleven depend on the third for support. In reality however, Step Three is just one of twelve. It is the keystone, but without eleven other stones to build the base and the arms, keystone or not, there will be no arch. Through working of all Twelve Steps, I find that triumphant arch waiting for me to pass through to another day of freedom.
Twenty-Four Hours A Day
March 14
A.A. Thought For The Day
Can I get well? If I mean: “Can I ever drink normally again,” the answer is no. But if I mean, “Can I stay sober?” the answer is definitely yes. I can get well by turning my drink problem over to a Power greater than myself, that Divine Principle in the universe which we call God, and by asking that Power each morning to give me the strength to stay sober for the next twenty-four hours. I know from the experience of thousands of people that if I honestly want to get well, I can get well. Am I faithfully following the A.A. program?
Meditation For The Day
Persevere in all that God’s guidance moves you to do. The persistent carrying out of what seems right and good will bring you to that place where you would be. If you look back over God’s guidance, you will see that His leading has been very gradual and that only as you have carried out His wishes, as far as you can understand them, has God been able to give you more clear and definite leading. Man is led by God’s touch on a quickened responsive mind.
Prayer For The Day
I pray that I may persevere in what seems right. I pray that I may carry out all of God’s leading, as far as I can understand it.
Walk in Dry Places
March 14
Living with depression
Mood management
Getting sober is often only a first small step in getting well. Many recovering alcoholics must also face an underlying depression that seems to mock their efforts to attain real serenity. But sobriety does not cause the depression. It simply lays bare a condition that was present all along, but had been masked by repeated binges. It’s probably true, too, that many of us used alcohol partly as a drug to combat depression because it temporarily lifted our mood and relieved our pain.
One fact about depression is that it comes and goes; we can endure it partly by knowing that “this too shall pass.” Another fact is that physical activity helps in copying with it. AA co-founder Bill W., victimized by profound depression even in his sober years, found that walking provided some relief, though he had to force himself to do it at times. A third fact about depression is that we can usually alleviate its effects by helping others and by staying close to AA circles, even when we’re too depressed to contribute much. It’s also helpful to discuss the problem with understanding friends and sponsors, or a therapist, if necessary.
I’ll believe today that I can maintain a good mood level that continues to build as I carry out my responsibilities and make AA first in my life. Depression may challenge me, but I don’t have to give in to it.
Keep It Simple
March 14
Archie doesn’t know how to worry without getting upset.
— Edith Bunker
Most us are like Edith’s television husband, Archie. When we worry, we get upset. Problems seem too big for us. We get afraid. We feel powerless. What does the program tell us to do when we feel powerless and our life is upset? We look at the problem honestly . Than we ask our Higher Power to help us with the problem. We take it One Day at a Time. We believe our Higher Power will take care of us and help. We’ll have problems. That’s life! But we can get through them with care and support. We don’t have to get crazy. We don’t have to make things worst. We can be kind to ourselves and live through problems just fine—with our Higher Powers help.
Prayer for the Day: Higher Power, help me do what I can today about my problems. Help me stop worrying.
Action for the Day: If I have problems today, I’ll do what I can—and leave the outcome to my Higher Power.
Courage can’t see around corners, but goes around them anyway.
–Mignon McLaughlinI have a capacity in my soul for taking in God entirely. I am as sure as I live that nothing is so near to me as God. God is nearer to me than I am to myself; my existence depends on the nearness and the presence of God.
–Meister EckhartNever does the human soul appear so strong and noble as when it forgoes revenge and dares to forgive injury.
–Edwin Hubbel ChapinThe gift of the Spirit is that we are God’s children.
–Rita Jorgensen
Father Leo’s Daily Meditation
March 14
WINE
“Wine that maketh glad the heart of man.”
— Psalm 104:15
Every good thing can be abused and alcohol is no exception. Although most people are able to enjoy the fruits of the grape and the quality of their lives are enriched by good wine, not a few are destroyed by wine! Millions of people in this world are alcoholic. They did not want to be alcoholic but they are. Their lives and relationships are destroyed by alcohol. They need to stop drinking if they are to find “gladness” in their lives. Alcoholism is a disease that cannot be cured, but it can be arrested by giving up the grape!
God can be appreciated in the grape, but He can also be experienced in the soda. We need to find new ways to be happy.
Thank You for the precious gift of choice.
Daily Inspiration
March 14
Treat your family as you would treat a best friend. Lord, help me to treasure my family with all of their imperfections as well as my own and cherish the time we have together.
Do not act as though you are watching a parade because we are each one of the marchers. Lord, things change so quickly. Help me to celebrate the constant newness of my life.
Elder’s Meditation of the Day
March 14
“The concept that we are all related is one of the basic philosophies of D/Lakota religion.” –Dr. A.C. Ross (Ehanamani), LAKOTA
The Medicine Wheel teaches the four directions of the races, Red people, Yellow people, Black people and White people. These four directions are symbolic of all races. Everything in the circle is connected and related. All races are brothers and sisters. If we are related to each other, then it is important to love one another as brother and sister, aunt and uncle, Fathers and Mothers, Grandfathers and Grandmothers. We need to care for each other and especially respect each other. We need to honor one another’s differences whether that difference is the color of our skin or our opinions. We should respect differences.
My Creator, let me feel the connectedness to all things. Let me know the lessons I need to learn today. Above all, let me feel my connectedness to You.
Journey to the Heart
March 14
Observe Yourself
Watch yourself. That’s not a grim admonition. It’s a call to observe yourself and is a helpful tool on the journey.
When you get stuck in a behavior, stuck in a pattern, stuck in a place, a thought, a feeling, a job, or a relationship and you don’t know how to get unstuck, watch yourself. When you’ve tried everything you know and your feelings and old ways of reacting still come to the fore– even when you don’t want them to and especially when you’ve made an effort to do things differently– watch yourself. When it feels hopeless, when it seems things will never change or shift, when you can’t help yourself and it doesn’t look like those around you can either, look at yourself.
The act of watching ourselves, neutrally observing ourselves without judgement or reproach, can be a powerful tool for change. If you’ve tried and tried to change but it hasn’t worked, then watch yourself. Watch what you say, what you think, how you feel, how you act, how you react. Don’t try to stop yourself. Don’t judge. Just observe. Do it as long as you need to, although it may not take long.
Watch yourself. Then watch how you grow and change.
Today’s Gift
March 14
Each man with a new idea is a crank until the idea succeeds.
—Mark Twain
What does it mean to be different? How does it feel? Is it okay to act or look or be different from everyone else at times? Sometimes, maybe even most of the time, it feels safer to blend into the crowd. We don’t want to stick out like a sore thumb. But sometimes it’s when we are different that we discover new things no one has ever thought of or done before.
We don’t want to spend our whole lives doing only what others do. And there are times when we must take a stand if what others are doing is wrong. Perhaps it’s good practice to try to do some little thing differently once in a while, to stand out from the crowd, just to get used to it. We might even like it. After all, if no one ever dares to be different, how would our world ever change for the better?
What little thing can I do to stand out from the crowd today?
Touchstones Meditation For Men
March 14
This above all, to refuse to be a victim. Unless I can do that I can do nothing.
—Margaret Atwood
Men have often become victims by seeing themselves as saviors. We forgot that we have needs too. We thought if we gave enough, our needs would eventually be met. In the process we became great controllers, not for the sake of power, but to make everything okay. We turn ourselves inside out to make our mates happy or to please our children or friends. But being a savior is a disrespectful role to play. When people became angry with us for it, we absorbed their anger and felt misunderstood.
No relationship is healthy for either person if one is a victim. We must do our loved ones the favor of letting them see our strength – let them bump up against it – even when that means we say a loud and strong no! After we have said no, our yes is much more believable.
Today, I will take responsibility/or my own life and try not to be a savior for others. I won’t undermine my relationships by being a victim.
Daily TAO
March 14
AFFIRMATION
Stand at the precipice,
That existential darkness,
And call into the void :
It will surely answer.
The precipice represents our dilemma as human beings, the sense that this existence is all too random, all too absurd. Is there order? Is there a force directing things? These are the important issues, so important that we cannot rely on scripture, but must instead explore on our own.
The followers of Tao compare the void to a valley. A valley is void, yet it is productive and positive. The emptiness of the valley permits water to accumulate for plants. It allows life-giving sunlight to flood its surface. Its openness gives comfort to people and animals alike. The void should not be frightening. Rather, it contains all possibilities. Peer into it, call out, not just with your voice, but with your whole being. If your cry is deep and sincere, an echo is sure to return. This is the affirmation of our existence, the affirmation that we are on the right path. With that encouragement, we can continue our lives and our explorations. Then the void is not frightening, but a constant companion.
Daily Zen
March 14
Walking about
In this pine wood,
I find an accommodating rock
On which to nap.
In the mountains,
There aren’t any calendars;
And though I know winter’s
Cold has ended,
I haven’t a clue to the year
– T’ai-shang Yin-chi (mid T’ang)